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By Peter J Clark
For many of us, a little bit of spontaneity can be exciting. We might enjoy an unexpected trip or a last-minute change of plans. However, for many autistic people, routine, structure, and predictability are not just preferences; they are often essential for well-being and managing daily life. Understanding this need is crucial for anyone who wishes to support an autistic friend, family member, or colleague.
This article explores why routine is so important, the impact unexpected changes can have, and the practical strategies that can be used to support an autistic person's need for predictability. The aim is to help you see this need not as rigidity, but as a vital and intelligent coping mechanism for navigating a world that can often feel overwhelming.
Why can a predictable world feel so calming and a surprising one so stressful for an autistic person? The answer lies in how the autistic brain often processes information and experiences the world. The intense need for routine serves several key purposes:
The world can be a confusing and sensorily overwhelming place. A predictable routine acts as a map for the day, helping an autistic person to know what is going to happen next. This sense of knowing what to expect can significantly reduce feelings of anxiety and worry, creating a feeling of safety and security in a world that can otherwise feel chaotic.
Autistic people often have to consciously process a huge amount of social and sensory information that neurotypical people manage more intuitively. This is mentally exhausting. When a day follows a predictable structure, the brain does not have to work as hard to figure out what is coming next or how to respond to new situations. This frees up valuable mental energy that can be used for learning, working, or simply enjoying an activity.
In a world that can feel unpredictable, routines provide an essential sense of stability and control. For a person who might be overwhelmed by sensory input or find social rules confusing, being able to rely on the predictability of their own schedule is a powerful way to feel grounded and in charge of their own life.
Given the comfort that routine provides, it is understandable that unexpected changes can be highly distressing. What might seem like a minor disruption to a neurotypical person-such as a different route being taken to school, a last-minute assembly, or even a teacher wearing glasses when they usually do not-can cause significant anxiety and upset for an autistic person.
This is not a wilful "overreaction" or a sign of being difficult; it is a genuine response to the sudden loss of safety and predictability that the routine provided. The person's map for the day has been torn up without warning, leaving them feeling lost and anxious about what will happen next. This distress can sometimes lead to a meltdown or shutdown as the person becomes completely overwhelmed.
So, how does this need for routine look in everyday life? It can be seen in many areas:
Many autistic people have a set sequence of actions for getting ready in the morning or winding down at night. Following the same steps in the same order each day provides a predictable and calming start and finish to the day.
A large task, like tidying a bedroom or completing a school project, can feel overwhelming. Breaking it down into a sequence of smaller, predictable steps creates a routine for accomplishing the task, making it feel much more manageable.
Moving from one activity to another can be challenging. Having a consistent routine for these transitions-for example, a specific song that signals the end of playtime or a visual cue that it is time to leave the house-can make these shifts much smoother and less stressful.
But life is full of surprises, so how can we manage changes when they are unavoidable? Understanding and supporting an autistic person's need for routine does not mean that life must be rigid and unchanging. It means being thoughtful and using strategies to make changes more manageable.
Many autistic people are strong visual thinkers. A visual schedule or timetable can be an incredibly powerful tool. By using pictures or written words to show the plan for the day, you provide a clear and permanent reference that the person can check, which helps them predict what is coming next. This can be a chart on the wall or a planner they carry with them.
Where possible, give as much notice as you can before a change happens. Telling a person that the schedule will be different tomorrow gives them valuable time to mentally process and prepare for the change, which can significantly reduce their anxiety when the time comes.
A social story is a short description of a situation that explains what to expect and why. For a bigger change, like a hospital appointment or a house move, a social story can be used to walk the person through the new experience step-by-step, making the unknown feel more familiar and less frightening.
Sometimes, simply understanding the reason for a change can make it easier to accept. Explaining why the routine needs to be different can help the person make sense of the disruption.
If one part of the day has to change, try to keep other routines as consistent as possible. This provides an anchor of predictability in a day that feels different, which can be very reassuring.
Ultimately, the strong need for routine and predictability seen in many autistic people is not a character flaw or a sign of stubbornness. It is an intelligent and effective coping mechanism for navigating a world that can feel complex, chaotic, and sensorily overwhelming. By understanding the reasons behind this need and using constructive strategies to support it, we can help autistic people to feel safer, calmer, and more in control of their lives.
A predictable framework is not a cage; it is a solid foundation upon which an autistic person can build their confidence, conserve their energy, and truly thrive.
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